Sexuality is an inherent, essential, & beneficial dimension of being human.
— AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists)
"When it comes to sex, the most important six inches are the ones between the ears." - Dr. Ruth Westheimer
Why Is It So Hard to Talk About Sex?
Sex is a huge part of who we are, but it's the one thing we’re still afraid to talk about—even in therapy. We're wired for connection and pleasure, yet when it comes to sex, our culture is full of taboos and silence.
For so many of us, our entire sexual education was that one awkward day in junior high. What do you even remember? Probably just the biology, right?
No one taught us about pleasure, consent, how to actually practice safe sex (beyond just "don't do it"), or how to talk to a partner about our needs. Instead, sex ed is often rooted in fear—all warnings about STDs and "dangers."
When we're given limited (or just plain wrong) information, it’s no wonder so many of us struggle. This culture of silence and shame can make us feel "broken," afraid to explore our own identities, or completely unable to ask for what we want in our relationships.
What is Sex Therapy? It's Specialized Talk Therapy.
Sex therapy is a lot like individual or couples counseling, but with one key difference: you're working with a therapist who has extra, specialized training in sexuality.
This means you can safely and productively focus on topics you might not explore in traditional therapy. A sex therapist can provide the non-judgmental, accurate sex education you never got. They'll work with you—either one-on-one or with your partner—to address any sexual concern.
This can include:
Exploring your sexual history and how it affects you today.
Working through sexual anxiety, shame, or fear.
Understanding patterns of aversion or avoidance.
Getting clear on your future desires and how to communicate them.
What's a Sex Therapy Session Actually Like?
We know that walking into that first session can feel intimidating. Talking about sex is vulnerable. That’s why our therapists work hard to make you feel safe and respected from the first minute.
This is a space where you can be open about your history, your fears, and your hopes—without any judgment.
It’s a "mind-body" process. Here’s what that means:
The "Mind" Part: We'll talk. We'll explore the messages you grew up with about sex, your past experiences, and the "stories" in your head that might be holding you back.
The "Body" Part: This is about getting out of your head. We'll use mindfulness and other body-centered techniques to help you learn how to be present, connect to physical sensations, and find pleasure in a non-judgmental way.
It’s also very practical. Your therapist will give you real education (sometimes with diagrams or books to make things clear) and recommend exercises to try at home. This isn't just about understanding the problem; it's about building new, healthier habits.
What You'll Gain: Find a More Confident, Embodied You
The most powerful benefit of sex therapy is improving the relationship you have with yourself.
We'll help you feel more connected to your body and your own pleasure, finally freeing you from the weight of "shoulds" and external expectations. Together, we'll work to unpack and move through the shame that has been holding you back.
This process gives you the safety and freedom to explore your own sexual beliefs. You’ll gain the confidence to not only understand your preferences but to express them in a clear, assertive, and healthy way.
The result isn't just better sex—it's a stronger foundation for a happier, healthier, and more sex-positive life.